The following information is provided by the
by Lynne Kenney Markan, Psy.D
- Use nice words and kind behaviors. Be clear, calm and specific
in your requests.
- Expect strange feelings at first over the new relationship
with your ex-spouse.
- Do not expect your ex-spouse to read your mind or to meet your
- Build a business relationship while moving away from the expectations
of an intimate relationship.
- Be honest, it's not usually "all the other parent's fault."
- Support a loving relationship between the children and the
- Facilitate access between your children and the other parent.
- Show common courtesy and respect even if you believe the other
parent is undeserving.
- Give yourself some privacy and let the other parent have their
- Act like a guest in the other parent’s home.
- Don’t expect praise or appreciation from the other parent.
- Keep the children out of the middle of conflict.
- Do not use your children as go-betweens.
- Spend alone time each week with each of your children.
- Remember your children are your gift not your property.