The following information is provided by the
by Lynne Kenney Markan, Psy.D
- Find your own meaning of family, of home, and of parenthood.
- Respect the crisis periods of transition, learn how you function
during times of stress, and increase your personal resources.
- Let the emotions of the end of your marriage run their course
and realistically evaluate your past, in order to foster healthier
relationships in the future.
- Learn how to separate your role as a former mate from that
of a parent.
- Setup your own home, establishing your new family rituals,
customs, and rules.
- Aim for a good “Parenting Agreement” and a privately
negotiated settlement about the children.
- Strengthen ties with supportive others—friends, family,
associates, and if necessary, seek new ties.
- Parent by example.
- Recognize that holidays may be celebrated anytime of year not
only on the designated day.
- Don't make your children transition several times in one day
just so that each parent can "see them" on a given holiday
such as Thanksgiving or Halloween.